The Maestro’s Artistic Darwinism or What’s Passion Got to Do with It?

May 16, 2013

goldfish canstockphoto5844496 (2)When the Maestro told the young musician “You lack passion” (see previous post), he was acting as, Paige McKinney pointed out in her comment on that post, an arrogant, self-appointed “agent of artistic Darwinism.”

This is the other reason I hate the Maestro story: the violin master is exclusionary. He filters people out. Personally, I think the world is a better place when everyone contributes their creative gifts. I prefer to filter people in.

It’s fine for an individual to limit how many students s/he takes on because teaching does take time and creative energy away from the teacher’s own creative work. But the Maestro didn’t say “I’m not willing to teach you.” He said the young violinist didn’t have what it takes to “make it.”

Experienced writers sometimes do this when they say, “If you want to be a writer, you have to ________”  and fill in the blank with “write 4 to 6 hours a day” or “write 2,500 words a day, 365 days a year” or whatever their current writing practice is.

What gets filled into the blank is rarely something a new writer has the time or skill to do. In all likelihood, it’s not what the experienced writer did when s/he first started; it’s something s/he grew into.

goldfish canstockphoto2399633 (2)Think You’ve Got What it Takes?

The aspiring artist (writer or musician) stands on one side of a huge chasm and the experienced artist stands on the other side and says “If you want to get where I am, you have to take this enormous leap of faith.”

Most aspiring artists look at the chasm and are filled with understandable fear, and walk away. Their fear stops them. But not because they lack passion.

When the young musician asked to play for the Maestro, he wanted what any aspiring artist wants – the reassurance that he had the talent to make the leap. That if he invested his future, all the time and energy and money of going to music school, and invested his dreams and hopes and poured his very heart and soul into music, that he wouldn’t crash and burn at the bottom of that huge chasm.

Aspiring writers want reassurance that they have talent, but talent isn’t what determines success. Anyone who has a basic level of verbal intelligence and writing ability can master the craft IF they are willing to put in the time and effort. And it’s a lot of time and effort – 10,000 hours to mastery as Malcolm Gladwell says in his book Outliers.

It’s not talent we need so much as willingness to do the work. You don’t have to leap the chasm; you can find a route into and across the canyon and back up. You can reach the other side, not with a huge leap, but one small, manageable step at a time.

The catch-22 is that reasonable people don’t want to invest 10,000 hours without some assurance that they have what it takes to make the investment worthwhile, but the only way to find out is to invest the time.

What Kind of Guarantee Can I Get?

goldfish canstockphoto3359699 (2)We all would love a guarantee that if we invest our time, creative energy, heart and soul into writing, it’ll be worth it.

On one level, no one can give us that guarantee. Because what we do is creative, it is by its very nature unpredictable. Every new writing project is different from the ones we’ve done before. We aren’t manufacturing widgets on an assembly line, so we can’t know how to make this project work, how long it take, how well it will turn out or even that it will turn out at all.

Every artist’s workspace and history is cluttered with at least a few false starts and dead ends.

Yet, on another level I know that you CAN be successful if you are willing to put in the time and the effort to learn craft skills and to develop a reliable writing process based on sustainable habits. (One place to acquire those skills is the Loft; one place to acquire those habits is my Discover Your Way Around the Writer’s Block class.)

Perhaps not “bestseller success,” certainly not “overnight success.” But if success means creating a piece of writing you can be proud of that reaches at least a small audience, I can guarantee you can get there. If you have a basic level of verbal intelligence and are willing to put in the time and effort, you can do it.

I assure you that your time, energy, money, passion, talent, time away from family and friends and self-respect won’t be wasted. I assure you that you don’t have to leap and let your heart and soul crash and burn at the bottom of that chasm.

I promise you that it may not work out exactly as you want it to, but you do have all the passion, courage and talent you need to handle whatever comes.


Overcome Your Writing Resistance

May 14, 2013

Free your brain from stress with one of these free pink stress-ball brains

Free your brain from stress with one of these free pink stress-ball brains

This Saturday May 18 from 9:00 am to 1:00 pm is your chance to Overcome Your Writing Resistance at ArtReach in Stillwater, MN. (more details)

Not only will you get the information you need to write more — more often, more freely, more effectively — you’ll have a ton of fun!

Free brains, writing for insights, candy with every writing exercise, creative playtime and a Brain Treasure Hunt — what’s not to enjoy?

 


The Maestro’s Advice and Why You Should Ignore it

May 13, 2013

violin canstockphoto5004236 (2)When a violin virtuoso on tour came to his city, a young musician named Tom talked his way into an opportunity to play for the Maestro. When Tom finished, the Maestro said “You lack passion.”

Years later when the Maestro came back, Tom, now a successful executive, arranged for a few friends to enjoy the concert from the very best seats and to meet the Maestro backstage after the performance.

Tom thanked the Maestro and said “You probably don’t remember, but I played for you once.”

“I said you lacked passion.”

“That’s right! How did you remember?”

The Maestro waved his hand and said “That’s what I tell all the young musicians.”

“But I changed my life based on your advice! I gave up on going to Juilliard and went to business school instead. I could have gone on with my music! I could be where you are now!”

“As I said, you lacked passion,” the Maestro said calmly. “If you had had passion, what I said wouldn’t have mattered. You would have pursued your music regardless of what I said.”

The moral of the story is that you should follow your passion no matter what anyone tells you.

I hate this story! It’s always bothered me and after doing the research for my book, I know why: It’s simply not true.

The reason most people don’t follow their dreams is not because they lack passion – or will power, discipline or talent – it’s because they don’t know how to manage fear.

Got Passion? Or Fear?

Passion and fear arise from the same part of the brain – the limbic system. As I explain in Around the Writer’s Block, if there is enough fear, the limbic system initiates the fight-or-flight response. When the limbic system takes over, the cortex is pushed out of the driver’s seat and all our creative thinking, problem-solving and commitment are temporarily lost.

It’s not that we stop wanting to play music or write, it’s that that passion is lost in the face of fear.

We don’t need to be told we lack passion; we need to learn how to respond to our fear. Reassurance, especially from those with more experience, is the first step in managing fear.

Next time: the other reason I hate the Maestro’s response and why you should too.


Are You Sure It’s Feedback You Want?

May 9, 2013

smiley group canstockphoto9462161_comp (2)You’ve probably seen it: the confusion, frustration, disappointment or disbelief when a writing group gives a writer requested, yet unwelcome feedback.

Readers wonder why the writer submitted the piece if s/he didn’t want honest feedback. They often judge the writer for being unprofessional.

The writer, on the other hand, wonders why at least some people in the group refused to give the kind of response s/he specifically requested.

When critique sessions go astray, it’s often because the writer only thought s/he was looking for observations about the piece. Below the level of conscious awareness, the writer wanted reassurance that s/he has what it takes, that s/he can write and should keep working at it.

I Couldn’t Find Reassurance, Will Critique Do?

There aren’t any “reassurance sessions,” so writers, especially aspiring writers, submit work that really isn’t ready for critique. The unconscious hope, I suspect, is that in the midst of the feedback, they’ll hear something that will allay their fears and help them keep going. 

Experienced writers also yearn for reassurance when we start a new project, sometimes consciously, sometimes unconsciously.

I’d love a guarantee that the book project I’m contemplating will be successful. I wish I knew that I’m not pouring my time, creative energy, passion, hopes and dreams into something that will only disappoint me and never amount to anything.

smiley encourage canstockphoto11681771 (2)No one can give me, you or any other writer that guarantee. But I can settle for someone I trust saying, “That’s sounds intriguing. Challenging, but perfect for you.” I’m buoyed and energized when that person asks, “What’s your next step?”

Isn’t That Childish?

We don’t ask for reassurance because we think we’re not supposed to need it when we’re adults. But the truth is, reassurance allows us to deal with fear. Even if we don’t worry about the monster under the bed anymore, adults have plenty to be afraid of.

Humans, like other primates, instinctively seek reassurance because it allows us to relax, which is an essential part of managing fear. Gaining strength from our social bonds is normal human behavior, nothing to be embarrassed about.

Gaining confidence and support from other people allows human begins to do amazing things. We are a social species and, despite the American mythos of the rugged individual, we aren’t meant to figure everything out on our own.

We don’t need to be patronized. We don’t need Pollyanna, New Agey “Everything will work out just the way you want if you visualize it enough” statements. That’s pseudo reassurance.

We need real reassurance. We need to hear a variation on, “This is hard, but you can do hard.”

We may need to be reminded that everything may not work out the way we want, but if we don’t try, it’s certain to not work out. When we know that someone else knows “You’ve got this,” we can take a deep breath and move forward into our audacious dream.

And there’s nothing childish about that.

Next post: The Maestro’s Advice and why you shouldn’t believe it for a minute.


Top Ten Tips for Writers

May 7, 2013

hazel and wren about_typewriterparts-e1311628436175Usually, I post my best stuff here first, but Hazel & Wren got first dibs on my latest Top Ten Tips list.

Fortunately, it’s just a link away and when you take that link, you can explore Hazel & Wren’s fabulous Literary Community website. Be sure to scroll down to see this week’s Three Things writing prompt. Enjoy!

P.S. I’d love it if you leave a comment on Top Ten Tips on the Hazel & Wren site!

 


Got Brains? Wanna Bet?

May 3, 2013

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It seemed like a safe bet at the time…

On one of those “bonus winter” days in April when everyone on Facebook was talking about the never-ending snow, I offered a free copy of Around the Writer’s Block to everyone in class if it snows in Stillwater, Minnesota on May 18 when I’m teaching Overcome Your Writing Resistance.

I also promised a free stress brain to everyone in the class regardless of the weather because I didn’t really think it would snow on May 18. Now, as I watch the snow fall on May 3rd, it looks like I’d better bring a box of books as well as a box of brains just in case.

Either way, it is a safe bet for you – sign up for the class, get a free brain and maybe a free book. Not to mention, four hours of brain-based fun (including a brain treasure hunt), multiple A-ha moments and a surprising amount of information.

If you’ve enjoyed my blog posts, you’re going to LOVE this workshop. Consider yourself officially invited. Contact ArtReach via ebrite to get yourself officially registered.


One Giant Leap for Writing, One Small Step for Writers

May 2, 2013

article-2149979-04817D530000044D-240_306x423Resistance and overwhelm are old friends. Nothing can freeze the creativity right out of your brain or send you running away from your writing in search of a distraction, any distraction, as fast as contemplating the enormity and complexity of a big writing project. The bigger the dream, the bigger the resistance.

But there’s an easy solution. Just remind yourself that no one ever takes a really big step. Not really.

Huge things are accomplished by an accumulation of small “I can do this” steps, each one following logically from previous small steps. The last step, which is the most visible to outsiders and therefore looks huge, is usually pretty much the same size as the first step.

Even the giant leap for mankind was just one small step for Neil Armstrong.

The bigger the accomplishment, the more little steps are needed and the more people are involved to take their small steps. Neil Armstrong didn’t get to the moon in a single leap and he didn’t get there alone.

Even Creative Leaps?

The flash of creative insight might look like a huge spontaneous leap of intuition, but that big, gratifying “A-ha!” is always preceded by a whole lot of little, seemingly insignificant steps, one after the other.

The “A-ha” can’t happen without all the “what if’s”, “how about’s”, “why not’s” and all the dead-ends, u-turns and restarts that lead to that insight. And without taking action on all the “now what’s” that follow it, the “A-ha” is pointless.

summit canstockphoto1902224 (2)How Do You Climb a Mountain?

Your big writing dream – a novel, short story collection, memoir, screenplay or chapbook, or publishing a piece in the publication you admire, or consistently posting to your blog, or whatever – is your mountain.

You can spend all your time staring up at the mountain, marveling at how high it is, how dangerous the weather looks, how amazing the people who climb it are. You can keep yourself frozen in place thinking about what a big deal it is.

Or you can bring your gaze back to the trail right in front of you and start walking, one step at a time.

Of course, you have to have courage and commitment. It’s smart to have a map, guide and companions you trust. It’s important to have the supplies and equipment you’ll need when you start and to know where and when you can replenish those supplies.

But it all comes down to taking the next small step. And the next small step. Step by step, day after day.

What’s your next step?


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