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Creativity coach, writing and creative process instructor, speaker, author of Around the Writer's Block: Using Brain Science to Write the Way You Want (Penguin/Tarcher 2012) and Dancing in the Dragon's Den (Red Wheel Weiser), Teaching Artist at the Loft Literary Center.

Want to Write? You Gotta Trust!

Most writer’s resistance can be traced to the fear that we might get hurt.

Let me reassure you. You WILL get hurt.

Your writing will be flawed. Some people will criticize it and you. More will ignore it. The vast majority of the 7.6 billion people on the planet will never know or care about your writing.

Even the people who know and care about you as a person and who encourage and support you will be, at different times, nonplussed, disappointed, angry, hurt and confused by your writing. You, yourself will be unimpressed, embarrassed, angry and confused by your own writing at times.

Trying to be a perfectionist won’t help. You will still make mistakes, and the more perfectionistic you are, the more those mistakes  will hurt. You will write – and publish — stupid things. You will write things you will later regret or wish you could improve.

Don’t Let That Stop You!

You’re going to get hurt. So what?

Anything worthwhile – love, health, spiritual connection, personal growth and satisfaction, professional development – will hurt at some time.

Giving birth – to another human being, to yourself, to a creative entity that will outlive you – is agony. It’s also ecstasy.

You have to trust that you will not be destroyed by pain, that you can endure. Trust you will outlast the pain. Trust you will survive, even thrive, when the pain passes.

Trust you will find enough joy, satisfaction and meaning to make the pain secondary.

So quit screwing around and get to it. You really don’t have much choice. Because the only thing that will hurt more than writing is not writing.

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4 Comments on “Want to Write? You Gotta Trust!”

  1. Joel D Canfield February 9, 2018 at 1:56 pm #

    Ah, thank you. Knowing some things are going to fail or hurt is somehow easier than wondering if they’re going to fail or hurt.


    • rosannebane February 18, 2018 at 6:32 pm #

      So true, Joel. Knowing nudges us toward accepting the reality; wondering can lead to hoping we won’t have to accept. And when we know everyone experiences some failure and pain prevents the erroneous assumption that failure is a sign we should give up.


  2. Say it... Somebody. February 9, 2018 at 9:20 am #

    I really needed to read this. Thank you.


    • rosannebane February 18, 2018 at 6:33 pm #

      You’re very welcome SayItSomebody and thanks for letting me know the post helped.


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