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Creativity coach, writing and creative process instructor, speaker, author of Around the Writer's Block: Using Brain Science to Write the Way You Want (Penguin/Tarcher 2012) and Dancing in the Dragon's Den (Red Wheel Weiser), Teaching Artist at the Loft Literary Center.

How You Do Love Writing?

Are you passionately in love with writing or are you and your writing an old, married couple?

When you’re in love, you tingle with passion, desire, excitement. Every moment is an opportunity to discover another fascinating detail about your beloved. Even the risk of being disappointed, rejected or broken-hearted is thrilling.

When you love, you’re calm and accepting. You know who you’re in relationship with and you know who you are in the relationship. The trust you’ve earned creates willingness to risk at a deeper level.

The best answer to the question of whether you love writing or are in love with writing is “Both.” You need to love your writing process and be in love with your current writing project.

from the Dalai Lama

from the Dalai Lama

You need to trust yourself to show up. You need the routine and predictability that habits give you. That’s loving your process.

But you also need to be excited about what you’re working on. You need novelty and variety to keep things interesting. When you’re in love, the object of your passion is special, intriguing, the focus of all your attention. That’s what a writing project should be.

When you love, the one you love is still special, but the rush and the drama dissipate. It’s possible to take your love for granted because you trust and rely on the other so completely. The steady relationship can become so comfortable and predictable that it starts to resemble a shabby bathrobe — nothing flashy, but it’s warm and it fits. That’s what your writing habits should be.

You can fall out of love just as easily as you fall in love. Writing projects might thrill you at first, but there’s no guarantee they won’t disappoint you. You might be adored or you might be rejected. Your interest in a project or topic might be just a fleeting flash of passion before you move on to your next love interest. Or the passion might flee before the next beau arrives, leaving you bereft and without a clue about what’s next.

We find the courage to face the risks of rejection and loss that come with falling in love partially because it’s exciting, but even more so because we love and trust the writing habits and process that sustain us.

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2 Comments on “How You Do Love Writing?”

  1. andthenwehadcookies June 8, 2018 at 7:32 pm #

    Hi Rosanne! A big THANK YOU for introducing me (I was a student in one of your LOFT classes) to the ‘writing habit’. I am now part of a Writer’s Group and continue to write stories and poems on a daily basis. Writing has enriched my life like nothing else I have ever experienced. With heartfelt gratitude, Mary K Crawford


    • rosannebane June 21, 2018 at 2:29 pm #

      Hi Mary K, It’s great to hear from you! I’m delighted that you’re writing on regular basis and have found support in a writer’s group! I have a feeling your writing will enrich other people’s lives as well as your own. Keep showing up!


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